Asking the Hard Questions

posted Nov 7, 2012, 3:22 PM by Ginger Bowman

You Lost Me

You’re probably already familiar with the statistics shared in this video by David Kinnaman about this generation of 18-29 year olds.   Kinnaman shares that one of the reasons young adults give for dropping out is that they don’t feel that the church is a place they can ask their most pressing questions.  Does the church matter?  Is homosexuality really wrong?  Do I really need to get married?  Is the Bible capable of answering today’s scientific questions?   What’s wrong with living together?

This young adult generation sees Christianity as too simplistic to answer the most complex questions.  The church seems to be too neat and sanitized to talk about the gritty issues of everyday life.  They are looking for more than trite and concise answers to the questions they are facing, and they need a safe place to share their doubts.

Students are turning to technology, culture and peers for answers to the most critical questions of life instead of turning to the one place that should offer the best answers and the most hope.  To me, this one point in all of the current research is the most heartbreaking and perhaps the most crucial. 

The church should be a safe place to ask the hard questions.  It should be the place we want to go to when we struggle with doubt or temptation.  And it isn’t just the 18-29 year olds in the church that need that.  Everyone does. 

So how do we create a church culture that is that kind of place?  How do we help our college groups and our congregations to be more open and honest?   To help students struggle through the hard questions?  The Bible is sufficient to answer the tough questions.  The gospel is not overly simple, but it is enough.  And the truth that God offers is complete to guide us through even the most complex cultural issues we now face. 

Here’s where we would normally offer the bulleted points.   Maybe this time we should marinate on it for a while.  How would you describe your church’s culture?  Do you give pat answers and check lists?  Do you allow the difficult questions?  Are you asking them?  Or are you avoiding them?   How do you show love and acceptance to those in your college group?  In your church as a whole?

Maybe we as the church need to be asking ourselves a few hard questions. 

Get the book “You Lost Me” by David Kinnaman here.

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